If you’ve ever had a great relationship and both of you are committed to making it work, there’s a strong chance you can overcome even the toughest challenges. 
 
Rough patches are a natural part of any long-term relationship, but they don’t have to define your future. With effort, understanding, and mutual commitment, you can rediscover the love and connection that brought you together in the first place.
 
One of the biggest misconceptions about love is that it flourishes naturally without effort. While sparks may fly during the honeymoon phase or on Valentine’s Day, lasting love requires consistent action and intention.

Why Do Relationships Need Work and Commitment?

It’s easy for a marriage to fall into a lackluster daily routine and seemingly lose its spark. But is the spark truly gone or are you two simply in need of some tune up and quality time?

Ask yourself these important questions: Am I willing to do what it takes to make our marriage work? Am I willing to take the first step toward a fulfilling relationship together? Am I ready to leave the past in the past and meet halfway to shape a favorable future with the person I love?

If you answered yes, but find yourself struggling with the idea of meeting halfway, unsure about trusting your readiness to move past current patterns, or feeling lost about where to begin – that’s okay. You’re not alone. 

These feelings are valid and often signal that you may benefit from guidance and support from a relationship coach. My passion is creating a safe space to guide you toward a new set of goals.

Why Is Relationship Coaching Important?

At the risk of tooting my own horn, it’s never too late (or too early) to work with a love coach. Relationship coaching sessions support couples by developing a plan that becomes shared relationship goals.

A coach provides valuable insights, communication strategies, and tools to recognize, resolve conflicts, and deepen emotional connections.

When it comes to helping you reconnect with your spouse, coaching provides a fresh perspective, an exciting plan of action and accountability.

You will find a list of ideas and ways to reconnect with your spouse below.

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How To Improve Married Life

Love each other, laugh, date, play, and put the effort into your relationship.

I know this sounds absurdly obvious but it’s easy to forget that it’s often the simple things that make all the difference.

50 Date Ideas & Ways To Reconnect With Your Spouse

Recognizing that your relationship needs a reset doesn’t have to be overly complicated. It can simply be acknowledging that you’ve been kind of distant lately, deciding to have a spur of the moment date night or simply going to grab a coffee together.

Find and Share Common Interests

Find out what your partner is currently passionate about and share what your passions are. Invite your spouse back into your life and try to be part of theirs rather than just co-existing. If you have separate hobbies, try to learn from each other.

Go out, try new things, pick up hobbies you can do together, or meet other couples who are doing interesting things. If you can come together as friends who have these things in common between them, the relationship can become special again. You will look forward to spending time together and the romance part of it will come naturally.

Here’s a list of hobbies for couples to bond, have fun, and create shared experiences:

Creative Hobbies for Couples

  1. Painting or drawing
  2. Pottery or sculpting
  3. DIY home decor projects
  4. Photography
  5. Writing short stories or poems together
  6. Cooking or baking new recipes
  7. Scrapbooking or making photo albums
  8. Building models (e.g., ships, airplanes, or Legos)
  9. Learning an instrument or playing music
  10. Crafting (e.g., candle-making, knitting, or sewing)
 

Outdoor Activities

  1. Hiking or nature walks
  2. Gardening or landscaping
  3. Camping
  4. Biking
  5. Kayaking or paddleboarding
  6. Fishing
  7. Birdwatching
  8. Playing sports like tennis, badminton, or pickleball
  9. Rock climbing
  10. Exploring local farmers’ markets or flea markets
 

Fitness and Wellness

  1. Yoga or Pilates
  2. Dance classes (salsa, ballroom, etc.)
  3. Running or jogging
  4. Martial arts or self-defense training
  5. Swimming
  6. Joining a gym or fitness challenge together
  7. Meditating or practicing mindfulness
  8. Training for a marathon or charity event
  9. Rollerblading or ice skating
  10. Trying new workout routines on YouTube
 

Learning and Skill-Building

  1. Learning a new language
  2. Taking online classes (cooking, coding, or painting)
  3. Attending workshops or seminars
  4. Learning to play chess or other strategy games
  5. Building a puzzle
  6. DIY woodworking
  7. Exploring wine or coffee-tasting
  8. Taking photography or editing classes
  9. Trying new tech projects (e.g., 3D printing)
  10. Joining a book club or starting one together
 

Leisure Activities

  1. Watching movies or TV series and discussing them
  2. Playing board games or card games
  3. Visiting museums or art galleries
  4. Reading books aloud or listening to audiobooks
  5. Stargazing
  6. Hosting dinner parties or game nights with friends
  7. Planning themed date nights
  8. Traveling or planning mini road trips
  9. Exploring escape rooms
  10. Attending live shows (theater, music, or comedy)
 

Adventurous Activities

  1. Scuba diving or snorkeling
  2. Ziplining
  3. Horseback riding
  4. Paragliding
  5. Go-karting
  6. Trying amusement park rides
  7. Surfing or skiing
  8. Skydiving (if you’re daring!)
  9. Exploring hidden spots or off-the-beaten-path destinations
  10. Trying a hot air balloon ride
 

Why Date

Don’t stop dating your spouse. Pick a day, every week or couple of weeks, and make it date day or date night – and make it yours. Get out of the house and do something together. Other things will come up and other people will want in on the fun but date day or night is meant for just you two.

Dating doesn’t have to be dinner. It can look like a trip to the beach, a hike, drinks at a bar, a walk in the park, movie night, etc. The more creative you are, the less bored you will feel.

Here are some date ideas so you can try new experiences together:

Outdoor Adventures

  1. Take a scenic hike or walk through a nature trail.
  2. Go kayaking, paddleboarding, or canoeing on a lake or river.
  3. Visit a botanical garden or arboretum.
  4. Go stargazing with a blanket and telescope.
  5. Try a fun outdoor activity like ziplining, rock climbing, or ropes courses.
  6. Rent bikes and explore a new area together.
  7. Visit a beach, lake, or park to relax, swim, or fly kites.
  8. Go geocaching or scavenger hunting in your city.
  9. Take a horseback riding lesson or trail ride.
  10. Volunteer together for a local park cleanup or community event.
 

Creative Dates

  1. Attend a pottery, painting, or art class.
  2. DIY a home project or craft something together.
  3. Have a photography date, capturing fun shots of each other or nature.
  4. Write and perform short poems or songs.
  5. Start a scrapbook or journal for your shared memories.
  6. Build a puzzle together or work on a Lego set.
  7. Take a dance class, such as salsa or swing dancing.
  8. Make tie-dye shirts or custom t-shirts.
  9. Create vision boards for your goals or dreams.
  10. Build and fly paper airplanes or make origami together.
 

Leisure & Fun Activities

  1. Play mini golf or visit a driving range.
  2. Spend an afternoon at an arcade or playing laser tag.
  3. Try out an escape room or mystery challenge.
  4. Take a scenic drive and stop to explore new places.
  5. Watch the sunset or sunrise from a special location.
  6. Go to a local thrift store and pick out outfits for each other.
  7. Attend a live theater show, comedy night, or music performance.
  8. Wander through a flea market, antique shop, or bookstore.
  9. Go skating (roller or ice) at a local rink.
  10. Visit a museum, aquarium, or historical site.
 

Active & Sports-Inspired Dates

  1. Try a rock climbing gym or bouldering.
  2. Rent a tandem bike and explore a local area.
  3. Play a sport like tennis, badminton, or pickleball.
  4. Sign up for a dance or Zumba fitness class together.
  5. Go bowling or try axe throwing.
  6. Test your balance with paddleboarding or surfing.
  7. Try a trampoline park or indoor obstacle course.
  8. Hit a batting cage or driving range.
  9. Rent a kayak or canoe and paddle around together.
  10. Train for a 5K or other fitness challenge.
 

Exploring & Discovering

  1. Visit a planetarium or go on a star tour.
  2. Take a scenic train or boat ride.
  3. Explore murals and street art in your city.
  4. Go on a ghost tour or explore a historical site.
  5. Visit a petting zoo or animal sanctuary.
  6. Walk through a farmers’ market or craft fair.
  7. Tour a local factory, distillery, or vineyard.
  8. Wander around a new neighborhood or town.
  9. Try a mystery “date-in-a-box” or an adventure guide.
  10. Spend the day trying fun activities like axe throwing or archery.
 

Teamwork In Marriage

You are a team in everything. Remember that when you’re in an argument – you can’t win individually. You can only win or lose together. Not holding grudges helps. Learning not to worry about every little thing helps. Laughing together even when life gets tough is a great medicine.

 

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From One Married Couple To Another

Here are some practices that can help a strong marriage flourish, even during hard and trying times.

  1. A neutral place to discuss what you are arguing about. Sometimes just saying “Couch talk” is enough to a resolve a conflict without visiting the couch. There can be a set of rules for this neural place, like sitting facing each other and no interruptions when one of you is speaking.
  2. Show appreciation. Always. Your partner does the dishes, say thank you.  Compliment each other daily. If your spouse runs an errand for you, say thank you, I really appreciate it and vice versa.
  3. Listen to understand not just to respond. Hold off on forming your response and listen to understand what message the other person is trying to convey.
  4. Understand the importance of compromising. You are allowed to have a voice in things you like and dislike. Sometimes, you just need to realize there are two people making decisions now.
  5. Your relationship is not a zero sum game. If one person wins and the other loses, you both lose. When you have conflict, it’s not a contest. It’s a mutual problem-solving exercise.
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Explore Relationship Coaching

It can be hard to have the difficult but much needed conversation with your spouse in order to begin setting relationship goals and strengthening your relationship connection.

A certified coach is right for you if you desire a certain outcome but need a push in the right direction, the tools to succeed, and the space to be vulnerable with each other.

This is where I come in. Let’s explore your relationship coaching options together.

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About The Author:

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Hi! I’m Julie, a certified relationship coach for couples and singles.

Through my work, I empower couples to break free from patterns of disconnection and not only envision but create a revitalized relationship where love is not only rekindled but strengthened. Together, we explore strategies to reignite passion and growth, fostering a profound connection that stands the test of time.

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A little love note from Julie

 

I want to tell you that I’m here for you. If you’re having a tough time with love or just want to make your relationship stronger, I can help.

Everyone deserves a happy relationship where they feel loved and understood. Let’s work together to make that happen for you.

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